How to stop arguing with your spouse
Frequent arguments in a relationship can do serious harm in the long run so it is wise to look for help before it’s too late, when you are arguing with your spouse (and it could be over petty things), you are actually distancing yourself from him/her and that is actually the last thing you want to do if you want a close and loving relationship.
If you need to know "how to stop arguing with your spouse" than know this, the key to have a successful conversation is to communicate correctly, I don’t know if you know this but the way we structure our sentences have different impacts on our listeners and if we don’t think about it, we might come off as arrogant or insensitive witch in return spark an argument that actually wasn’t intended.
There is an excellent e-book on this matter by the way entitled "magic relationship words". If you want to learn how to talk to your spouse to make you self more understood and do so without saying the wrong things than magic relationship words might be something for you to look into. Here is the link to the website with more information - magic relationship words.
Now, back to how to stop arguing with your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband or wife. Ready? Think about this, what is it that you most often fight over? Is it over financial issues, is it about the children, and is it about your opinions and views of things in general?
Whatever it is, you should know how it usually goes, but think to yourself, is there something I can say or do differently in order not to spark arguments with my spouse? If you were to think back to the last time you guys were "fighting", how did you go about it, did you have anything to do with it? Could you have done or said something differently to get out of it?
sometimes it’s really difficult not to say exactly what we think and feel but if our thought and feelings is presented in a clumsy manner than the listener might get offended, it is wise to listen to what they have to say and figure out a way to present our views and opinions in a way that appears to benefit the listener as well. Remember that people is looking for their interests and if your argument is about you than their argument will be about them. Try to discover the way to make your points in a way that benefits them as well and you will find that they agree more than resist.
Demonstrating the willingness to learn how to stop arguing with your spouse is the first step and you did that, now think about how you can improve your communication to get your points across without engaging in arguments.
